ONGOING My (29F) husband (31M) got a paternity test on our daughter (5F) and it came back negative, but I never cheated. Now he thinks our relationship is a lie and wants to divorce. What do I do? + UPDATE
I don't know how it happened and I haven't been able to stop crying all day. I never cheated. I love my husband, we've been together since college and he's the love of my life, he's handsome and kind and while I've slept with two other people, both were before we got together. There is no other potential father for our daughter. We were married already and actively trying for a baby. I never cheated, I never would cheat, and I don't know why he took that stupid test because I would never, ever cheat, but it came back negative and now he thinks he's not her dad. I don't know how to convince him it was a faulty test and I'm so scared.
These past few months it's like he's become someone completely different from the man I married. He's cold, and suspicious. He kept demanding to see my phone, and wouldn't tell me why, and I showed him at first but eventually told him I wouldn't anymore unless he explained why. He's been distant with our daughter too. He stays in his office for hours on end, and I don't know what he's doing. I did not cheat. He accused me this morning, saying he'd done the test after realizing that our daughter's eyes (brown) wouldn't naturally come from ours (both blue) and that he wanted me to get out of the house. I didn't leave and he locked me out of our bedroom and now I'm in my daughter's room. This is terrifying.
What should I do?
Edit: The specific advice I want is how I can prove I'm innocent and how to make sure this relationship works. I want to keep my family together at all costs.
Also, I just had a conversation with my husband. He's out of his room now, and we discussed some things. I told him again that I would never cheat and started talking about a list I made of tests I want done, but he told me that he didn't want to hear it right now. We're going to have a longer conversation tomorrow and he said that he still loves our daughter, and he won't try to keep me out of the house or our room for now. I asked him to hug me and he did. I'm scared that I won't be able to convince him. I just want our family to go back to normal. How can I be a good wife and support his needs while proving my innocence?
TL;DR: My husband confronted me this morning saying our daughter isn't biologically his after a failed paternity test, but I never cheated.
Hi everyone. First off, I wanted to thank everyone who reached out, my original post got so much attention, it was hard to get to everything, but I ended up making a list of plans, and tests I wanted to get done. My husband was (understandably) distrustful of me for a while, but he apologized for the way he acted (which I didn't need) and said that he wouldn't try to kick me out of our home. He did say, though, that if every test came back and I'd cheated, then he was going to "go scorched earth."
We did a few tests. Blood paternity tests for him and me, and our daughter, and we had an appointment with a chimerism specialist coming up, but that got canceled because, well, some of you guessed it, but my daughter is not biologically mine either. I don't know how this happened, but a police officer came to our house and took our statements, and we're suing the hospital where I gave birth. I don't know what happened to my baby, and that is terrifying. I have my husband back, but my whole world was still upended, and I just wish he'd never taken that stupid test. I've been sleeping in my daughter's room, and I'm so afraid that she's going to be taken away from me, but at the same time I want to know where my biological daughter is, and if she's okay. I pray to god she's okay.
My daughter still doesn't know the details, and we've been trying to keep this quiet. The last thing we need is a big scandal. I don't want people who know us to look at her differently. She deserves better than that, she's such a good kid, and she's not some spectacle to be gawked at. If we can find her birth family, I have no idea what we'll do. I guess the best case scenario would be to get a bigger house and all live together, but I don't know if we can afford that, or if they'd go for that, or even if we'll be able to locate them, or if I'm just crazy. This whole situation is crazy. I don't know anyone else who's been in a situation like this. I mean, are there support groups for parents of kids who got mixed up? I googled and nothing came up. Literally all I'm getting are tabloid articles from trashy magazines that slap the faces of innocent kids on the same pages as celebrity sex scandals, and fiction. How do we tell our daughter? I mean we can't tell her now, she'll tell the kids at school and then it'll be everywhere, but we have to say something.
I don't know what I ever did to deserve this.
TL;DR: My daughter is not biologically mine, or my husband's.
Was on a 3rd date with this woman who has such a nice rack. We wound up at her place and was getting started on some fore play. When she pulled them out I was excited af they were plump and perky and pierced. I don’t mind the piercing or didn’t even think twice about it before I dived in mouth first. About 10 seconds into it I get some sour liquid crust in my mouth that tasted horrible I backed up to get that shot out of my mouth it totally killed the mood. After o left I googled the crust and sour stuff and turns out discharge and crust is very common with nipple piercings!!! I wanted to puke, why tf would a woman with damn near a perfect rack do that??? Is there a group of men that like that type of shit? I asked the girl if she’d be willing to 86 the piercings and she said no. So sadly I ended it. Do I gotta start asking these woman before we meet if they have tit piercings? It was legit a gross af experience.
Two tires on my car blew out. Luckily, my wife has a car and since new tires, on the cheap end, would cost me nearly 300 dollars, I just used my wife’s car for work. No big deal. My dad asks me “why don’t you just get 4 new tires?” I said “I can only afford one tire at a time right now…” he said “see that’s the problem, they all wear at different speeds. And they’re cheap tires so they wear out faster. Just get the good tires.”
Yeah, no shit.
Then I got a lecture about having an “oh shit” fund for stuff just like this. I was honest and said “I’m having trouble buying groceries for my family right now, I can’t really afford to put money aside. There is no money to put aside.”
If I had money to put aside I would. It’s so god damn frustrating to be told to just save money if you don’t have any. I work two jobs. One 40 hours a week and one 32 hours a week. Thanks for the sage advice.
Edit 1: RIP my inbox Edit 2: My dad is a good person. Very kind. Just a little misguided on things.
Exactly what most of us thought / feared would happen with the overturn of Roe is in fact already happening. The "Christian" right's obsession with sticking their noses into every woman (and in this case CHILD'S) healthcare decisions has now resulted in a victimized 10-year-old girl in Ohio being re-victimized yet again by having to travel to Indiana carrying her rapist's baby for the procedure. I already see "Christians" making their usual "Well, it's not the BABY'S fault..." comments all over social media and "It's a state's right issue and she was still able to get one so shut up!" knowing damn well they want this to be a federal ban. Disgusting! I truly detest these fuckers.
One thing people are overlooking with this KD drama. The Nets paid for a full season of recovery from his achilles injury. For him to demand a trade after a season and a half
Not only was he signed to a max contract but also made the Nets sign a old ass Deandre Jordan along with Kyrie and then forcing them to gut their assets for James Harden who was about to become a FA.
The Nets did absolutely everything he asked for